If caring for an ageing parent has taken over your life, you’re not imagining it
If you are feeling disconnected from who you are outside caring, you are not alone.
In our recent survey, 72% of carents agreed with the statement:
“I have lost my sense of self since becoming a carent.”
Caring for an ageing parent does not just take time and energy.
It can quietly take pieces of you.
That loss is not dramatic. It happens quietly, over months and years.
You are not failing. You have just been carrying a lot.
This isn’t about fixing yourself or pushing through burnout
You do not need a reset.
You do not need resolutions or routines you cannot keep up with.
Most people caring for elderly parents are already exhausted. What they need is something gentler. A way to pause, notice themselves again, and take small steps back without pressure or guilt.
That is why we created The Carents “Still You” Pack.
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Both tools are delivered together, so you can come back to them whenever you have space.
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What’s inside The Carents “Still You” Pack
The Reconnection Pack includes two simple, pressure-free tools. They are designed specifically for carents and built to fit around real life, not an ideal version of it.
Who Am I Now?, a gentle workbook for carers who feel lost
If you have a little headspace, this mini workbook helps you gently reconnect with who you are beyond caring.
It includes:
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5-minute reflective prompts you can dip in and out of
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A micro-goals grid for things that take under three minutes
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An “energy in, energy out” tracker to notice what drains you and what gives something back
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A tiny weekly check-in you can return to anytime
There are no deep dives and no emotional overload. Just space to notice yourself again.
30 Days of Small Wins, rebuilding control when caring feels overwhelming
If reflection feels like too much, this tracker focuses on action instead.
It includes:
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30 tiny, carent-friendly actions, like drinking water or stepping outside
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A simple tick-off format that rewards consistency
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Clear permission to skip days, one tick still counts
This is not a challenge.
It is a reminder that small things still matter.
Use it in a way that fits the reality of caring
You can:
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use one tool or both
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spend five minutes or thirty seconds
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start today, next week, or come back to it later
There is no right way to do this. Only what fits your capacity right now.